If you’ve spent any time with personal growth books, classes or programs I’m sure you’ve heard many times that we must let go of judgement. It is true that judgement blocks the flow of energy, of life. But aren’t we judging all the time? Isn’t my deciding I like or don’t like something based on judging what or whomever is the object of my attention? Don’t I need to judge to make choices and decisions? No.
Judgement is labeling something as good or bad and deciding that it shall always be the case. Judgment is a small box, a tight container that restricts your options and possibilities. Judgement attempts to impose your opinions and choices on others too.
Discernment is a higher level of judgement. It is choice without condemnation. Deciding that something is good for you without judging that anyone who doesn’t do it is bad or less than you. Judgement is not required as a means for navigating life, in fact it makes life much more difficult.
Judgement says this is bad and will always be bad. There is personality, ego, a sense of “rightness” that constricts and limits the flow of life. Your personal discernment is deciding that this doesn’t serve me right now, it may in the future, but right now it isn’t good for me. There is no absoluteness about it, no harsh line. Judgment is black and white while discernment is the grey area; subtle and flexible. Discernment and what serves you best changes, expands and grows as you change, expand and grow.