There is a full-length mirror on the back of the door to my bedroom. It’s partially obstructed so I don’t use it much, but every time I take a quick glance to see if I am presentable to leave the house (not working in an office around people, sometimes you need to check) I feel like I look terrible. Then I go look in another mirror and think, oh, I look fine—it’s safe to go out.
So the question is … what do I really look like?
Am I frightening people as I stroll down the aisles of the supermarket? Is my outfit ill-fitting and hideous, but for some reason in the second mirror it looked great? Or is the mirror on the back of my door a little warped, and I can safely stop in to the wine store? (I must get out more.)
I can look in fifty other mirrors and get fifty other perceptions, but the answer to the question, what do I really look like? is, I look as good as I feel.
If I feel good about myself, if I accept myself exactly how I am in the moment, I’m going to look great. You know why? Because no matter what I am wearing, no matter what kind of a crazy bun I have atop my head, I’m going to be smiling, and radiating out warmth and well-being. I’m going to interact with the cashiers and baggers (oops, still in the supermarket), I’m going to laugh with my friend, and I’m going to be wishing others well.
This has happened a number of times, but one I recall in particular I was shopping (not grocery–Home Goods shopping) with a couple of friends. We weren’t looking for anything in particular–just seeing what was offered that day, and marveling at some seemingly ridiculous home accents, wondering first who actually thought they would be a good idea, and second if anyone bought them. (See photo for an example–we had a lot of fun with the “Loser Hand”)
We began our own brand of ridiculous, bantering about different items and then belly laughing to the point of tears. One woman looked at us and said, “I want to shop with you guys,” while another stranger laughed, “I know—they’re having so much fun!”
God knows what we “looked like” that day. Knowing me, I probably had yoga clothes on whether I had been to yoga or not.
What’s attractive isn’t on the outside. It isn’t our outfit, how good our hair looks, or what shape our body is. When you radiate joy, that’s attractive. Other people will be drawn to your high vibration, because they want that good feeling too.
So the next time you are worried about how you are going to look for the big event, stop being concerned with losing a quick five pounds or what outfit is the most flattering. Just walk in with a smile on your face and joy in your heart—you will look fantastic.
Gwen is a Reiki Master and Emotional Balance Practitioner, Certified Holistic Health Educator, author, blogger, and green juice connoisseur who is passionate about supporting others to lead more peaceful and joyful lives, with a special focus on helping women release the cycle of chronic dieting and make peace with food and body. Gwen lives in Newburyport, MA where she writes about how everyday events can lead to transformation if we only pay attention.