Practice Makes Positive: The Proof’s in the Hindsight

My boyfriend, Erik, and I met while he was in the Army. As I am sure you can imagine, the first few chapters of our love story were a whirlwind that included a lot of time apart as he deployed to Afghanistan. He came home safe, ten fingers, ten toes, and we could finally start our life together.

After seven years of service and two deployments, Erik decided to leave the military and move to Nashville to be with me. Transitioning out of the Army meant transitioning into the corporate world, which Erik met with enthusiasm and optimism. We were convinced he would find a job, no problem.

But he had just a few months to out-process from the only adult career he had ever known into… well, something – anything, really. At the time, he felt called to a Business Analyst position, given his background in intelligence. This is a guy that could speak Arabic, was top ranked and very successful as far as the military was concerned. We were confident his skills were transferrable to different industries, but because there wasn’t a true focus, the search was exhausting and long.

Everyone wanted to help – but no one quite knew how, including me. Contacts and recruiters didn’t know what to do with him, hundreds of online applications were sent into the black hole of the web as he worked tirelessly to find a fit. “Well, what do you want to do?” people would ask. How could he know, for sure? He joked, the one thing he did know was anything beats being shot at daily.

Finally, he was fortunate to get a job without any unemployment in between, in a manager trainee program at a large healthcare company here in town. An answered prayer, for sure! Things started off well, but after a few months, we quickly discovered this particular company was not the “right fit,” aka: it was miserable. He was treated poorly, under-valued and easily misunderstood, to say the least.

While he always had aspirations of higher education, his situation at work was a catalyst for him to enroll in a dual masters program in business and sustainability sooner rather than later. He is now three months into the program getting straight A’s (yes, I am very proud!).
And 9 months into the trainee program, an opportunity presented itself at another, reputable healthcare company. The position title? Business Analyst. He interviewed and was offered the job the next day. It includes a pay-raise and will be in the same neighborhood as my job, allowing us to spend more quality time together.

In hindsight, every step of Erik’s journey was divine. He was fortunate to get a well-paying job that served as a crash course to corporate politics (and exposure to what he doesn’t want in a career) right out of the military. His experience taught him a great deal and ultimately led him to enroll in the MBA program to seek a better path. And it was just the experience he needed on his resume to qualify for the position he had been envisioning since the day he got home from being overseas.

What a beautiful testimony to being patient with the Universe! Your plans may not always pan out in the immediate – it may take months, or even years, for you to see just how the Universe’s charted course unweaves, stars align and doors open. And in the moment, the stepping-stones may feel like the gravestones of your dreams. But with the lens of hindsight, each one plays a part in revealing your purpose and preparing you for your moment in the sun.

Are you feeling stuck, lost or forgotten? Are you feeling as if maybe all of your positive thinking is falling on the Universe’s deaf ears?

What if perhaps, you’re just on a stepping-stone?

Stay positive and reflect on your own past. Where is the proof in the hindsight for you? If we can transfer the confidence we feel looking back on the past toward looking forward into the unknown, the steps in between might not feel so discouraging. It is all coming down the pike – just have faith and keeping stepping forward.

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Jenny Cupero lives in Nashville, TN and is currently the Director of Business Development for 5by5 – A Change Agency. Jenny specializes in building relationships with changemakers like you to connect them with the marketing and digital solutions they need to optimize their clarity and reach. Jenny loves to stay active and is known for her shameless love affair with cheese, Disney World and Celine Dion. She is very excited to contribute to this incredible group of visionaries and changemakers making the world a better place.