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Recently, I have been making a sincere effort to be mindful of the Universe in my daily routine.

I’ll be first to admit this is not something that comes naturally to me. I have a desire in my heart to live every moment as an ordained gift made just for me by a friendly and magical Universe. I embrace the truth I will be much happier and more awake to life’s opportunities and surprises if I dance in the wake of every situation – good or bad, planned or unplanned.


But the truth is, I don’t feel magical waiting 2.5 hours naked in a gown to finally see my lady doctor (as if that visit isn’t “magical” enough without the wait). And I don’t feel like Harry Potter while dealing with back-to-school traffic and chronic neck pain that has kept me from getting a good night’s sleep for the fourth night in a row.

The doubt sets in. “If the Universe is friendly, why am I laying awake at night in pain?” “At this point, I deduce that if the Universe delivers a reality based on our thoughts, I must have created my own pain by spending 2.5 hours seething in frustration at my gynecologist. Then the self-loathing sets in for sabotaging my own REM sleep with my negativity.

Nothing about this sounds happy, does it? But you know exactly what I am talking about – you’ve had those days / weeks / months that are just “one of those” when everything seems to be going wrong. You miss your alarm clock. You spill coffee on your white shirt. You forget to hold your tongue in a meeting and end up pissing off your boss. You get a traffic ticket. You eat a basket of French fries as the appetizer to a brownie sundae – okay – maybe that moment goes exactly the way you planned, but the aftermath of feeling like a beached whale, not so much.

So what is the secret to finding joy in every day, even during “one of those”? In my quest to find the answer, I tuned into an interview between Sean Patrick (That Guy Who Love’s the Universe) and Byron Katie, American speaker and author who teaches a method of self-inquiry known as “The Work.” Sean led them both in a very interesting conversation about Byron Katie’s principles and philosophies about the Universe.

In their discussion she explained there are absolutely no mistakes in the Universe. If we have true freedom of mind and live in a state of gratitude and service, nothing can be out of place. That statement alone is mind blowing when you really think about. Absolutely zero mistakes – everything is exactly as it should be, at all times, for every human being. Sit with that for a moment. I know, I sure did.

And then I thought back on my week with that lens. I revisited the frustration I felt waiting for my lady doctor to conduct the hoohah invasion of 2015. And I remembered she was running late because she had an emergency surgery that morning. Her skills were needed and my waiting was just a byproduct of her playing her part in the Universe. And that time allowed me a window to read, breathe, and appreciate just “being” instead of producing. Traffic and stoplights are put in place to ensure my timing is always perfect. As for the neck pain – I am not sure I know the reason for that yet. Perhaps the tension was a manifestation of the way I lived out the day – frustrated, stressed – a victim of circumstance instead of a friend of the Universe.

Now the real challenge – having that lens in the moment, at all times, instead of just in hindsight.

Jenny Cupero lives in Nashville, TN and is currently the Director of Business Development for 5by5 – A Change Agency. Jenny specializes in building relationships with changemakers like you to connect them with the marketing and digital solutions they need to optimize their clarity and reach. Jenny loves to stay active and is known for her shameless love affair with cheese, Disney World and Celine Dion. She is very excited to contribute to this incredible group of visionaries and changemakers making the world a better place.